This is what my mama told me; and along with living in a household where she and dad backed up those words, at this advanced point in my healing journey it's more clear to me that this is what kept me alive when the world came crashing down on me.

I was 6, and I remember her tone of voice, where we were in the house.
Knowing me, I was most likely questioning some type of conflict or treatment, hurt feelings, friends, school...

Now, I was very advanced and ahead of my time in many ways, but at age 6, there was nothing in the world that was on my radar.
Lol.
Developmentally, children's own personal lives make up their entire world: friends, school, home, cousins, pets 
That's when life is the best it can ever be.

I didn't know much about "the world."
Wait, then again, I do remember clearly knowing the differences between white and Black people; I was used to white teachers. But one day me and friends were at a Battleship museum thing and this yt lady looked mean when we were trying to go up the steps and she was coming down the steps.
And so I thought, I can't remember if I said it out loud, but I felt like she was 'one of those' types.

Other than knowing race was a thing, a horrible thing, nothing else about the world had registered for me yet.
Oh wait, besides religion and all the who is going to hell fear teachings.

None of those fear and control teachings came from my parents, that was church. Thank goodness my parents never brought that "who is going to hell" fear and controlling systems into our home; but the few times I went to church it had already done major damage.

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"No one in the world is better than you."
"And you're not better than anyone else."

But hey, I like the first part the most, lol.

To be told that no one in the world is better than me, and be treated as such in my home, amazing.

I literally remember thinking about the entire blue and white type globe when she said world, I'm thinking, "the whole world."

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This amazing memory came back to me as I was watching KeKe Palmer's: 
Michelle Obama Has Advice Every Woman Needs to Hear

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At around the 34 minute mark, they mention about like when they said earlier, "If a child bumps their head, the way they react to it depends on your reaction."

So if you're like, "OMG!!!" And you're all upset, then the toddler starts to cry. Remember those days!!
But usually when you stay calm, the kid will stay calm.
I definitely remember seeing our kids cry based on our reaction; sometimes our reaction is what scares them, not the event itself.

So it applies with the huge, systemic worldly issues; all the "isms" and especially me being Black, that was the biggest, most obvious world issue and I don't ever remember my parents ever bringing helplessness, hopelessness, shame or blame into our household regarding the way the world treated our race, and the way our race internalized the hatred and it became self-hatred.

My value, peace, safety was not dependent on me being closer to ytness.

Racism was not our fault.
I wasn't born wrong just because the world has problems and power regarding color, I was never made to feel like my color was a problem, a fault, less than.
Never ever.

I was taught who I am.
And my parents' love was not based on anything any ytness could ever taught them.
It's ancestral, and pure, and beyond anything a yt world or yt life, could have given me.

This is the difference between my household and the type of dare I say most other Black people; if you are in so many ways shown that your race is the problem early on in life from your own household, then as the world continues to pound and pound that message in...you end up with what we have today and what we have had for centuries and centuries.

To the point chile, community is gone, even can't even keep a decent digital community.
And I can't communicate with people who approach Blackness is a negative, as a fault, as a defect.

No more arguing with these people of people online. Haven't done that in years, but the pain was still extremely intense, to realize that people who look like you....chile, can type the crap they type online, or podcasts or whatever crap

I can't keep wanting to fight them yes I used to want to physically fight these types (publicly calling out other black women for wearing bonnest in public, and just all them who publicly post shame for Black culture, they link crime to culture, they say Black people don't cook healthy etc etc, list goes on forever. They keep black men vs black women LIE alive like a zombie)....

So anyway, I am the advanced part of my healing path where I think of them as toddlers looking up towards their parents, guardians, caregivers etc to show them who they are.
And that's between them, and the people in their early lives.
It has nothing to do with me.