Posting on my FB personal page is so difficult and weird because these are people I know in my real life, but this is my story and after never focusing on myself on social media, I'm focusing only on me (for the very few times I even log on to social)
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I have complex-PTSD and most likely will be healing for the rest of my life.
My therapist:
"You were beautiful and to some boys and men, this made you a target for them."

I found that hard to understand because most people have dealt with these types of things

So when he words it something like this:

"Almost everyone has had their safety violated in public.
But, you attracted much more attention thus the chances of harmful experiences increase with the more attention you attract."

Okay I get that because I can see how it's true from a mathematical view point.

My thought process is:
Larger sample size of people = higher probability of all types of people.

Lol seriously though, everything has to make 100% complete sense to me.
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On the opposite end though, by far most of the attention was harmless, respectful guys however the interactions would still be intense and unusual because they would be looking so serious.

Like telling me in the grocery store while I'm pushing my basket "Your husband sure is lucky." Or, I'm standing in the pharmacy line one day and this man turns around and sees me and goes "I feel like one of the luckiest men in the world to be standing next to such a pretty woman"

We just in line! LOL. I do not understand how men care about looks this much.
When I worked at LensCrafters in the mall, guys would come in, respectful and harmless guys, saying how beautiful they think I am. Not trying to get my number or anything.

And inside, not out loud but inside I'm something like, "I'm so stressed out, I hate my job, my life has fallen apart, I feel ugly, like a failure because I got to get back into graduate school and earn more degrees and money--I don't care about my looks, so OMG stop walking around saying the same lies to every woman."

Very extreme reactions from men started so early in life for me I thought every woman was walking around getting the same type of comments while she ran her errands 🤣

Anyone else in the same boat just let your grey hair grow out and that will solve the problem for you lol. Harmless and respectful attention is not bad, it's just that you never know what truly is going on until the situation is over so it is stressful to be honest but some men are really still good men