My husband said this to me the other night 😽🥰❣️

And he is talking about me being physically beautiful-my face and my body.

While I am on this journey where I'm going back in time and with the help of a trauma-informed therapist, I am examining the "pretty and beautiful" comments I've received from boys and men.

My therapist asked me why am I comfortable with receiving beauty compliments from women and children, but why am I uncomfortable with the compliments from men. I thought it was just natural to be skeptical of men, especially since I am not the Hollywood beauty standard. 

So I've been working on figuring out why the pretty/beautiful comments from men felt like too much to handle, and how to move forward and fully embrace these comments without any trauma I had at the time of the comments, clouding my view.

I have begun to realize that comments from boys and men were not "just comments or just compliments," but they sometimes came with intensity and admiration that made them feel like intimate statements that are just too much. 

My series, "Beauty is Not a Fairytale" is tremendously helping me learn so much!

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This "I can't believe this man thinks I'm this beautiful" extends to every man, including my husband. I would automatically believe all of my husband's praises of me were simply because he's my husband and he's just saying things husbands are supposed to say.

We were in our mid-20's when we met and got married. We are now both pushing 50. Well he will be happy for me to say that I am pushing closer to 50 than he is lol.

We basically grew up together. And now that I've got some healing and halos to go along with that growing, let me say:

Dear Husband,
I fully accept your compliment
I receive it
I agree

And I don't agree just because I'm your wife and because I'm a good person.
I agree because, well like you said, I am beautiful!