My husband said this to me the other night 😽🥰❣️

While I am on this journey where I'm going back in time and with the help of a trauma-informed therapist, I am examining all the pretty and beautiful comments I've received from boys and men, and trying to examine what felt wrong in some cases, why, and how to move forward and fully embrace these comments without any trauma I had at the time of the comments.

I have begun to realize that they were not just comments or compliments, but they sometimes came with intensity and admiration that made them rather intimate statements. That's why I would often be like "Ummmm, what? Is he for real?" "This is too much!" "Me? Seriously? How is this my life when I feel so horrible inside and always getting my feelings hurt and made fun of?" 

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It seems like through the years, I would automatically believe all of my husband's praises of me because he's my husband. But that's not how trauma works. We were in our mid20's when we met and got married. We are now both pushing 50. Well he will be happy for me to say that I am pushing closer to 50 than he is lol.

We basically grew up together. And now that I've got some healing and halos to go along with that growing, let me say:

Dear Husband,
I accept your beautiful compliment
I receive it
I agree

And I don't agree just because I'm your wife and I'm a good person. I agree because, well like you said, I am beautiful!!