I just came across a post, and I swear I spent 2 minutes on social media but again it doesn't matter how long or where you are, negative people are everywhere. They dominate culture and certainly dominate all digital spaces. Before social media it was messy bloggers getting all the attention. 
Anyway, so I saw Flau'jae's mom post about hateful people thinking they are hurting her etc..
So, I'm tired. It's the same ole thing over and over. And this venom is lashed out at Black kids just living their lives.
This is not like, a politician who will automatically make nuts angry, or a religious figure, again, just college Black kids living their lives, ain't bothering nobody.

So, in the past I have lost my mind with rage at these types of people. And, I know how quickly I can spiral back down, especially on a day like today where I didn't sleep good, so I feel groggy and I've had to take Tylenol because my cycle is on. So I have some fatigue, and haven't felt that great physically.

What's pivotal to helping me is, making sure I'm almost completely unaware of what is going on when it comes to harmless and young Black public figures being harassed online.

Never knowing anything is not the answer to healing though.
100% avoiding social media and the Internet, also not the answer.
The answer is: I have to do the work and process what is happening and how to fix me.

However, I've drastically decreased social media, barely use it and have lots of safeguards in place and that is always necessary and needed for healing.

So, earlier before I started healing, I would sometimes accidentally see things for a second or two or three and usually it would fire my rage, pain and hatred off so fast and uncontrollably, I wouldn't even notice that I would be reading comments, more posts, typing names into search bars and just basically spiraling further into rage and pain that would take me days to settle down on.

What I didn't know was that:
if I was just passively scrolling by and had seen negative comments about, this person or that person or this or that or etc etc, even in passing, even without reading further, even without engaging, what happens is my mind would still be keeping tab on the patterns of hatred, the familiarity, the no escape feeling, and basically I'd see that one piece of information that would just make it all come to an explosion.

Also I would eventually feel like there is no separation between the person being harassed and between me. I would become 100% absorbed into all the horrible things being said, and my mind would 100% think it's me being attacked. 

So recently, I had been seeing triggering content and handled it this way:

So when I'm passively scrolling and it breaks from my weather, cats, birds and things like that it pops in something emotional, I have to continue to jet out of there and not read anything further, even if the topic is not initially bothering me and making me angry.
So there were many many stories where I was like "uh really. This is extremely emotional for me (anything dealing with hate oh excuse me "people giving their opinions")

I'm basically glad that I didn't fall into a trap like how I used to and be like "Well, I'm not even upset right now. This means I am getting better and thus means I can't try and see if the bullied public figure is doing better and are happy. This means I can go and look at positive supportive comments. This means I can see if there will start to be some type of change regarding Black public harmless people being attacked online)"

Well, just because I don't initially feel the hurt, yes that does mean I'm healing. But, that doesn't mean I am supposed to ever ever ever keep looking at the content under any circumstances....not to see the hateful people get told off, not to see if the victim is okay, not to see if change will ever prevail, not see how many people agree with me and what's right...

I now realize and understand that I will never ever be able to listen to (via movies, music, podcasts etc), read, or any way consume such content, not even for seconds.

I used to think that healing meant "Hey, if I come across hate, I won't feel anything. I should be able to just brush it off and scroll on."
But I now have a deeper understanding of my healing in the face of public displays of hate.

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Back to:

Why "I Don't Know Them" does not work for me

Because I know public humiliation, before I ever knew the opposite which is public place safety. So even if I don't know the public figures and they don't know me, my mind and body both store the effects of public ridicule, hate aimed at you, who you are, how you look...like these are deep and personal insults that go beyond surface level categories. People be going for your core. 
And that hurts.

Healing: What does work for me
As a reminder to myself, I have a lot of recordings I did to help me through these processes 

"I don't know them" is a great precursor to remembering that the negative people on an individual level do not have the power, authority or ability to control any of my immediate senses or satisfactions, routine etc. Hopefully the celebrities like Flau'jae, Angel, Cocoa and so on, Sha'Carri, Simone, Jordan Chiles, WNBA I'm so tired yall...but hopefully they all have major healing techniques in place.
Being wealthy, famous and successful does not heal.

They have good support systems, resources, and other types of people in their network who should be helping them especially in this age of is finally understanding or trying to understand mental health and trauma 

So they have a great advantage and that's where "I don't know them" helps me after I break it down further.

But just, well, they're being harassed but I don't know them so I'm fine, naw, that doesn't help me but going through the processes and digging deeper does help

Also, it's the sheer number of bullies that make it so unbearable. On an individual level, these trash people are regurgitating the filth inside of them like I said here:
and it's gross: I Kept My Peace After Hearing a Trash Comment

They could never hold up on in an individual argument so they side with and identify with group identity and group behavior. 
And that is not about race, gender, income, nationality, sex, sometimes the group behavior is mob behavior, mob mentality of singling someone out.

They are no-life losers and what do they get out of it? A few seconds of a dopamine boost? Losers.

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A previous post about Flau'Jae, I've made big improvements
My Hatred is Still Through the Roof

Much love always to her