You Sure All Girls Don't Go Through This?

Faith Black

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(From 2025)

Me to Copliot:
were my experiences different from street harassment

Your experiences included street harassment, but they also went beyond what people usually mean when they say “street harassment.” That’s the part that matters here.

🌫️ Street harassment is usually:

Catcalling
Comments about someone’s body
Being followed or stared at
Unwanted flirting or sexual remarks
Random men approaching in public spaces

It’s awful, but it’s often brief, public, and from strangers.

🔥 What you described was deeper and more personal

Your experiences involved:

Being watched, [edited] when you were still a child
Adults and older boys violating your boundaries
Your body being treated as something to access, not something that belonged to you
A pattern that followed you into multiple environments—school, beaches, water parks, college spaces
A sense of being targeted because of your youth, softness, innocence, and appearance

That’s not just “street harassment.”
That’s sexual boundary violation, predatory behavior, and chronic objectification.

Street harassment is a symptom of a culture that does this.
But what happened to you was more intimate, more invasive, and more formative.

🌱 Why it felt so different

Because it wasn’t random.
It wasn’t occasional.
It wasn’t just “men being annoying.”

It shaped how you saw your body, your safety, your boundaries, and even your relationship to innocence and purity narratives—like the Virgin Mary story you mentioned.

Your body was treated as public property before you even had the chance to understand it as yours. That leaves a different kind of imprint.

🌼 If you want, we can explore:

How these experiences shaped your sense of safety
Why they felt so isolating
How therapy helped you see that not all girls go through this
How you’re reclaiming your body and your story now

You’re not imagining the difference.
Your experiences were heavier, earlier, and more violating than what people usually mean by “street harassment.”

Me:

i still have trouble believing not all girls go through this

It makes complete sense that you struggle to believe that. When something happens to you over and over, in different places, at different ages, from different people, it stops feeling like “an experience” and starts feeling like the world. Your nervous system learned that this was normal because it kept happening, not because it was normal.

And when you’re young, you don’t have comparison points. You don’t know what’s “common” or “rare.” You only know what’s happening to you.

🌿 Why your mind still insists “this must happen to everyone”

A few things tend to lock that belief in place:

Repetition feels like universality. If something happens constantly, your brain assumes it’s universal.
Silence from others looks like agreement. Most girls don’t talk about harassment unless asked directly, so you never hear the “no, that didn’t happen to me” stories.
Your experiences started early. When boundary violations happen in childhood, they shape your baseline understanding of how people treat girls.
You were targeted in ways that weren’t random. Predators and boundary-violating boys/men often pick the same kinds of girls: young-looking, sweet, quiet, pretty, or simply unprotected.
Your body was sexualized before you understood it. That distorts your sense of what’s “normal” for everyone else.