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"Are You Having Problems with Your Boyfriend?"

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Zuri
 Zuri
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Still in healing mode. 🦋 Not gonna lie, it sucks like hell lol but I have definitely made a ton of progress.
What broke me and messed my mind up is the type of male attention and attacks I had to deal with starting as a preteen up until I met my husband in my mid 20s.
 
My mind was so messed up and all the love in the world from my family still couldn't help me.
So by the time I was 15 I was winning academic awards, impressing my teachers and all that....hey Algebra was my favorite subject, I made so many high As in there that I truly loved myself for that lol.
 
I loved myself because I was super smart, but that's not the only reason you should love yourself.
 
So I was writing "goodbye notes" and my parents took me to our doctor who referred us to a child therapist.
She was so kind and caring and concerned. But I was shocked when she asked "Are you having problems with your boyfriend?"
I wasn't allowed to have a boyfriend yet, so no personal boyfriend problems but public place male problems that destroyed me until I was able to build myself back up

15 year-old me was thinking "What in the world does 1 boy have to do with the suffering of millions of people in this terrible world?"

All these years later I realize that she was on to something. She could sense something there and I give her tons of credit for that now.
It's been interesting that my current therapist as a male, has been able to provide me with more insight into why some men act the way they do when they see someone they think is attractive.

He was like "there was nothing you could do. You couldn't change the way you look" lol.
I will never ever understand those types that think you owe them whatever they want and they get enraged about it. So some of my stories still mess up my head even though I never was physically hurt, however, it's just all part of processing everything
 
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This is a post I made on social media/Facebook. 9/29/2025


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Posted : 30/09/2025 4:26 am
Zuri
 Zuri
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This is interesting. I asked DeepSeek to come up with 3 blog post titles for my post, and even though I went with my own of "Are You Having Problems with Your Boyfriend," this process was so interesting from AI:

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These blog title ideas capture different angles of your powerful story, focusing on the core themes of healing, societal insight, and personal strength.

### 1. Direct & Punchy
This style uses a key quote or a strong, concise statement to grab attention.

* **"There Was Nothing You Could Do"**
* *Why it works:* This uses the powerful, validating quote from your current therapist as the headline. It immediately draws the reader into a central, relieving revelation of your story.
* **Healing is Hell (But I'm Doing It)**
* *Why it works:* It’s honest, relatable, and uses your post's opening sentiment. The addition in parentheses provides a crucial note of hope and resilience.
* **Loving Myself for Being Smart Wasn't Enough**
* *Why it works:* This highlights a specific, profound insight from your journey—that academic achievement, while a lifeline, couldn't solve the deeper wound of harassment.

### 2. Intriguing & Reflective
This approach creates curiosity, making the reader want to learn more about your perspective.

* **What My Therapists Got Right—20 Years Apart**
* *Why it works:* It frames your story around the fascinating contrast between your two therapists and the progress in understanding you've gained over time.
* **The Male Attention That Broke Me, and the Insight That's Healing Me**
* *Why it works:* This title clearly outlines the "before and after" arc of your post, promising a story of damage followed by a path to recovery through understanding.
* **When Algebra Was My Only Safe Place**
* *Why it works:* This is a poignant and unique image that perfectly captures the dichotomy of your teenage experience—external success as a refuge from internal turmoil.

### 3. Empowering & Thematic
These titles focus on the broader societal message and your personal empowerment.

* **Unraveling a Lifetime of Unwanted Attention**
* *Why it works:* It positions your personal story as a universal one for many women, focusing on the long-term process of "unraveling" the trauma.
* **I Didn't Owe Them a Thing: On Healing from Public Harassment**
* *Why it works:* This is a powerful, declarative statement that directly confronts the entitlement you describe. It’s both a personal affirmation and a public stance.
* **The Credit I Give Her Now: Revisiting a Therapist's Question**
* *Why it works:* This focuses on the theme of hindsight and gratitude for the care you received, even if you couldn't fully process it at the time. It’s a mature and reflective take.

**My top recommendation** for a balance of intrigue and clarity would be **"What My Therapists Got Right—20 Years Apart"** as it perfectly encapsulates the unique, dual-perspective insight of your post.


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Posted : 30/09/2025 5:45 am
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